Episode 1 | Dating Tips: Crushes & the Power of Practice Dating

Why wait until after you develop a mad crush to start developing your dating skills?  The young and inexperienced at dating can benefit from practice dating.  The most winsome women expect to be treated well. Watch it in HD.



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How Dating is Like Indian Wrestling, or Increased Attraction for the Happy Asian Man

"Indian Wrestling"

There's a game my father and my older male cousin used to play when my cousin was a young man in his twenties.  Maybe you've played it.  Each man would stand with the outside of his right foot touching the outside of the right foot of the other.  They stood with their legs apart, side by side, but facing opposite directions.  They grasped each others' right hand.  When the timer started, each would try to get the other off balance.  The first one to break his stance and falter was the loser.  The one who was able to stand his ground without moving his feet was the winner.

This message is for the young or inexperienced man or the young and inexperienced man who is setting out to date and woo a woman.  This is not for the jaded types who have had many women and are looking to score with the next woman.  For the young/inexperienced, feelings are extremely strong.  You can feel like you are in love before you even talk to the girl.  (I've heard it can be like that for some of the old dudes too!)  You might feel like a puddle of feelings.

But with your contact with the woman you need to make your message about strength, confidence and happiness.  Not about dependence on her reaction.  You can have a glimmer in your eye that shows you are attracted to her, an upturned smirk, a knowing glance, a light touch to the elbow, a lengthened eye contact, just slightly.  But not a sad face if she does not react positively immediately.  Not a dropped headed.  No slumping shoulders!

A woman does not want to feel that her reaction to you makes or breaks your life or your mood.

We as women don't want to feel you will come unglued if we reject you, if we flirt in a negative teasing kind of way.
 

Can you handle me?

Can you handle me being desired by other men?

Can you handle it when I'm an airhead?

Can you handle it when I feel bloated?

Can you handle it when I feel weak?

Can you handle it when I feel hot and the center of attention, as I can do no wrong?

A woman wants to know these things about a man before she can trust him.

What we need more than anything is to respect you, with earned respect.  Not because you demanded it in anger or went into a rage.  Not because you're a wuss that whined about it and got your precious feelings hurt.

The feminine woman wants to be the female in the relationship, the one with all the exposed feelings that fluctuate frequently.  Don't let her break you down into the being the woman.  Don't let her get you off balance, meaning don't lean her way but don't overreact the opposite way, in defeat, anger or depression.

Happiness = independence.

Happiness makes you look independent and confident -- strong, ready and open.  This is very appealing!

What can you do to be more balanced in your interactions with women?

Is Money the Most Attractive Quality in a Man? Guess.

What do you think the most attractive quality in a man is?

1. Money
2. Good job
3. Height over 5'10"
4. Good head of hair
5. Sense of humor
6. High IQ
7. None of the above.

It is your matchmaker's belief that it is "7. None of the above".  MsEastWest believes the most attractive man is the happy man.  Happiness is attractive to almost everyone, male or female.

What is happiness? What does it mean to be happy?  According to an online dictionary, "happy" means:

1.  delighted, pleased, or glad, as over a particular thing: to be happy to see a person.

2.  characterized by or indicative of pleasure, contentment, or joy: a happy mood; a happy frame of mind.

 Happiness is defined as,

1.  the quality or state of being happy.

2.  good fortune; pleasure; contentment; joy."

 A guy can be tall, with a good head of hair, a professional with a good IQ, having all the material accouterments but still be unattractive.  If he sneers, feels contempt for others, hates his work, loathes his clients, dislikes women, uses women, sees the world as half-empty, lacks courtesy, is a pessimist, feels downtrodden, feels entitled, complains about his upbringing, his station in life or his family, is lazy, is selfish, is stingy, has a filthy mouth, a filthy car, a filthy home or a filthy computer, he can be one of the most unattractive men you have ever met.

In your matchmaker's view, these are all indicators of an unhappy person.  Living with an unhappy person can make life a living hell.  Most people, including single ladies out there, know this.  Happiness is hard to fake.  Life is not perfect for anyone.  We all have to learn how to deal with setbacks, deaths, rejection, isolation and loneliness.  Some turn to religion to resolve this with success.  Others to psychotherapy.  And yet others through drugs, alcohol, mindless s_x, p_rn, and other bad behavior.

Are you finding rejection in the dating market because you are unhappy?  You haven't found the road to contentment and joy?  Your matchmaker provides date coaching and acts, in some ways, as a sister through the dating process.  But this is no substitute for the hard inner work of finding happiness. It's also been referred to as "The Road Less Traveled".

Before you jump into the dating market, you are encourage to find that happiness through your religion or other avenues.  Note: your matchmaker does not say "seek happiness", for that is elusive.  But having attained joy and contentment, it can be safely said that the quality and number of women who find you attractive is greatly increased.

Have a different opinion?  Please comment below.