Tuesday, April 5, 2011

The Sexy Mouth: A Big Deal


Avoid it as we may like, some things that enhance attraction just cost money. If you were not born with a perfect smile, it will cost you to get one. Consider this one of the big ticket items I will recommend to you as dating coach and matchmaker. Depending on where you are in your dental travels, it could cost upward of $25,000.

This is a cultural issue with Asian immigrants. It could also be financial. But we have noticed that in Asian cultures, and British ones even, having crooked teeth is okay. Not discolored, mind you, but crooked. Not so in the U.S. of A.

Crooked is not good. Discolored is worse. Missing, well, missing is almost a party gag. This is not said to make anyone feel bad. However, I must speak truth to dental work. A woman's reaction to a man's bad teeth almost goes beyond the conscious. Bad teeth give a subconscious message of bad health, bad breath and bad breeding.

The ideal are relatively straight, relatively white teeth with no gaps, and no metal showing. Too white makes you look vain and prissy; so do not go too far with bleaching. The perfect smile needs to look like something you were born with. A "perfect" smile can even have some teeth not perfectly aligned, to a very minor degree.

A woman whose interest you are trying to engage needs to be able to imagine kissing your mouth and enjoying it. She wants to imagine getting that feeling of exhilaration of kissing a youthful, happy, clean mouth. That's what a good set of teeth will do for you. And when you know your mouth looks good, you will learn to smile more.

... which leads to my second point S-M-I-L-I-N-G! It is a cliche that the most attractive thing about a person is their smile. However, it is true. With a smile, you communicate satisfaction with self, interest in the other person, and openness to a verbal exchange.

Smiling is a cultural thang also. In America, we smile a lot. Be it cultural or the sign of someone showing insecurity, not smiling, and holding the mouth stiff and the eyes stiff when looking at someone looks hostile, or even stalker-ish. A smile can communicate, "Hey, I'm not a threat, but you interest me."

Next time you are at the dentist, find out whether he or she does cosmetic dentistry. Ask for referrals from friends. Find out what you need in terms of orthodontia. Price it out.

If you make good money, please stop putting this off. I knew one successful anesthesiologist who had a house in the hills and a couple of Lexi, but the teeth were gray and dingy. A turnoff!

If you have some money and a decent job, most dentists and orthodontists will do dental work on payment plans. Maybe you cannot do it all at once, but, over time, you can get some work done.

One of the cheapest things is whitening in a dental office with laser. Doing this too often can weaken and thin your teeth. Do your research on this.

If you are lucky enough to have already gotten braces or were born with a great smile, don't forget to use it. Lady killers usually have a sexy smile and flirtatious eyes. Practice in the mirror.